for the record

One point I tried to make in my earlier "having it all" entry is that I don't need my husband to do half the housekeeping--nor do I want him to if it means I'm expected to earn half the household income. Before we married, he proposed we split household duties equally, which was a novel idea that I wasn't about to refuse. At the time it made sense, since we were both working students. We've since become more specialized, more traditional, and that works for us. I don't mind doing laundry, dishes, grocery shopping, cooking dinner--and most days, that's about the extent of my housekeeping. N hates laundry, but doesn't seem to mind yard work and home repair/improvement--and therefore does nearly 100%. Everyone has to figure out what works for them.